It’s pretty obvious that words spoken to – or shouted at – or whispered about – us can inflict harm. Words can be wielded as weapons in a number of ways. But casualties are not always the result of direct frontal assault, covert sniper fire, or even espionage. Sometimes we are laid waste by siege. What is withheld weakens us to the breaking point.
Some of the people who hurt us the most, and the deepest, can honestly claim never to have said a negative word to or against us. But they haven’t said anything positive either, and the words never said can leave a gaping void. It’s good of them, maybe, not to mention our mistakes. It’s cold of them not to acknowledge our successes. Refraining from tearing down is not the same as building up.